You left me again –
Nonchalantly without any care in the world;
you were callous, looking for excitement
you found one and I became an old book to you.
She was –
Mesmerizing and beautiful than me
she kept you enchanted
like a witch.
I was –
Like an old piano,
you didn’t appreciate the smell of it anymore
You replaced me with a new one.
She strolled towards the gate,
Hoping to meet her mate,
Hide in the bushes, she mumbled to the lover,
Little did she know, Mom stood over him like a cloud cover.
Discreet & watchful, she thought she was a safe book,
Never should have ignored the fact, her mother was on Facebook.
O, Mother! my sweet Mother! I will be back home on time,
O, Daughter! my sweet Daughter! you better be or else learn to climb.
I am not a child, she demanded freedom,
Keep your rules aside, No more I need ‘em.
A 10-year-old angel you were before,
Asking me stupid things which I loved & adored.
Now you feel all grown up,
The relationship we cherished is blown up.
With every inch, you gained in height,
Things we two liked before became a mere fight.
Your dresses, your fashion, your lifestyle seemed cool,
Since when did my opinion portray me as cruel.
Friends became a choice for you to get together,
Our discussions, conversations turned into bad weather.
Things you like, I can like them too
Don’t talk to me only once in a blue moon.
I am and will always be your first friend,
Recognize this soon enough before it is a dead-end.
The journey is more beautiful than the destination,
She could only realize once she left the nation,
All the pains in heart slowly vanished,
Escape, escape she rooted for before you get banished.
All the monsters in her life were taken aback,
Didn’t matter to her more than her backpack.
Jumped in the air to catch the rainbow over her head,
This was just a beginning of all the beautiful things ahead.
Sacrificed all, Sacrificed even the emotions,
Living the dream in the arms of the oceans.
Breathing and walking like a child was forgotten,
Dreams were imaginary and lives were rotten.
Then came the dark underneath the stars,
Flashbacks erased completely, left no scars.
Warm light from the sky woken her up,
Thoughts weren’t so clear before without a cover-up.
It’s your story, words kept echoing in her heart,
No more heartbreak & suffering will play the part.
No need to lie anymore to make them happy,
She didn’t realize when she became snappy.
River on both the sides brought the smiles back,
Cheers, she said to herself while making a Kodak.
I am sure we all have heard this line so many times in our lives. But the point here is “is it easy to follow your dreams”? How many people do we know who have done the same in their lives?
Let’s start from the beginning, and by that, I mean school time. This is the time when we come across a word called dream for the first time. At this age, we always tend to have more than one due to our vibrant nature. Such is the beauty of this age of innocence, we become obsessed with every idea we come across. When we grow a little bit old, it’s the time we start understanding our likes and dislikes and that leads to our ultimate goal. But the process of choosing one is not an easy job. We all are under the impression that choosing it is one’s own decision. But is it really? Doesn’t it depend more on our surroundings, family liking, and social pressure? It’s true that nobody is born knowing their goals. It’s the people around us who we meet on a regular basis plays a pivotal part in the process of choosing one. Dreams are not formed in a single day; it takes years for a person to understand what he or she was born to do. Most of the times our parents are only involved in the selection process. Ever since a kid is born, parents would make sure he or she is forced to dwell towards their dream naturally. And then starts the manipulative process of putting the same ideas in the kid’s mind so that subconsciously a kid would want to become what parents wanted him to be. And if it is not the family, then society will play the obvious role.Someone will always be there to distract him from his own vision. Hypothetically let’s say, a person follows the choice of his parents and get successful in it, but is that what he wanted to become in the first place, What about his own vision?
One of my childhood friends always wanted to become a journalist ever since he was old enough to think about his future but he chose the medical profession instead in order to make his parents happy. Now that he became a doctor and doing really good but for some reason, he is not happy with himself. When asked he said and I quote, “I still regret not going after what I wanted, given a chance I would not go against my wishes again. We only get one life and it is completely fair if we become little selfish in achieving what we desire instead of making others happy around us.
It’s not that we don’t want to make our family happy; it’s just that family should also learn to be happy with our personal choices. Most of the times we think to go along with their choices hoping we will find happiness in the end. But what if we never find it eventually?
We should never sacrifice our interests for anybody’s sake. Rather we can afford to be bit selfish when it comes to our choices. I am sure all the factors/people involved in it, can understand it sooner or later.
Going back to the main question in order to find out how difficult it is to chase the dreams. Let’s assume that a person has understood his vision. The obvious next step should be to understand the process which will lead him to it. But is it that simple, that one is clear about it and he goes after it. No, it is not this easy because there are so many other things also attached to one’s dream, it could be his capabilities to reach towards it, less money to invest on it etc but as long as your will is strong enough nothing can stop you from reaching the skies.
We need to constantly ask ourselves, “is it really worth doing something which does not make us happy”? I see a lot of people on a regular basis who are not happy with their jobs and career because it’s really not something which they wanted to do, it does not make them feel fulfilled and happy. So why do it only? It’s never too late to follow your dreams. If something doesn’t make you satisfied, quit it immediately and chase the things which will put a smile on your face. If the circumstance doesn’t allow you to do so, then give yourself a time to control it so you can do it later eventually. I am sure the road is full of bumps, difficult and looks impossible to start over from scratch but isn’t worth trying for?
Do not let anyone cut your wings and this includes the situation/circumstance too, always remember one thing that we were put on this earth to fly high!
We get one life only, why waste it doing something which the heart doesn’t want.
Addiction does not have any boundaries. It can be in several forms. If a person eats too many hot dogs in a day, he or she will also be labeled as addicted to it. What is weird is when people associate addiction only with drugs, alcohol, tobacco, porn or sex. It’s much to do with the fact that we only find those things harmful which are taught to us by the society. We never focus on the other things which make us weak and vulnerable from inside. Strangely isn’t?
What is the connection between instant happiness and addiction?
Anything which helps us move through the difficult times can be considered as instant happiness. For an example -: if a person who just had a breakup, would surely be looking for ways and means to divert his mind from it. And the process of doing something to get a move on to achieve the temporary happy state can lead to wrong choices resulting in addiction. It all depends on an individual to what choices he or she needs to make keeping in mind the consequences attached to it.
There can be so many examples of it. We always have had people around us who shop more or probably eats more in depression. Isn’t also a kind of addiction? Did we ever think why they do it? It’s because we don’t notice these things as long as we see them putting an effort to get through.For some reason, it is the effort which catches our attention not the path attached to it.
Food addiction is a very common example these days because it gives you a good and satisfying feeling by consuming certain food but having a constant urge to eat it when you are not even hungry brings a lot of serious consequences to it, it could be physical, social or even emotional. The result of over indulging in that particular food which brings you joy could be digestion problems, low self – esteem, depression etc.
Let’s talk about relationships. We all have seen and experienced the immense pleasure of being in love. But relationships can’t be taken for granted, we never know when it will get over and when it does, what can we do to get over it. I would like to mention about this friend of mine who would do anything to be in a relationship.Whenever he goes through a breakup, he would look for another person to fall in love with. This completely shows that he can’t remain single for a long time. Maybe by being in a relationship, he gets his happiness. But how many times a person can fall in love, it sure looks like he is addicted to relationships. But does he know that?
We are definitely aware of the fact that not all the choices leading to the instant happiness result in the addictions but most of the times we tend to dwell in wrong choices. Isn’t worth pondering about?
The question here is can we see us becoming addicted to something behind the curtains of instant happiness? It’s the pain which we suffer makes us go to any depths to recover from it and thus leading to the dangerous path of unknown addictions.
Most of the times it is very difficult to foresee the consequences of efforts we put in to go for the instant happiness which we seek and desire. I am sure the circumstances play a pivotal role in the choices we make but at the end of the day, we must accept that we are strong enough to control the circumstance.
The only thing that can be done is to be more observant about the choices we make to move through the difficult times. One should never think of finding the short cuts for it, rather we should all embrace the difficult times as a challenge for better future without having to face any unexpected and oblivion ramifications of our need for instant happiness. It is difficult but absolutely a secure way of permanent happiness.
Is cigarette a bad medicine?
Yeah, we know smoking is dangerous.
The government should ban cigarettes.
Let me ask you a simple question,” Who smokes more -Men or Women?
I know it is not the smartest question to be asked but surely not the dumbest one either.
If the same question came up 5- 10 years ago, the answer would have been very simple but now think twice before saying anything.
According to the recent research conducted by World Health Organization (WHO), 12 percent of world smokers reside in India.
A study suggests that in India smoking is 8 times more frequent in men than women. So this answers the obvious question asked. But we all know there is a huge difference between men and women’s population in India. The most interesting fact is the ratio of women smokers have gone up in last two years. Interesting isn’t? As per the report of World Lung Foundation, third highest female tobacco users are from India in the world. As per the research, out of the estimated 11.9 million female consumers of tobacco in India, 5.4 are those who smoke and rest of them chews the leaves. Surprisingly second largest number of female smokers are from India only next to America. Now, who would have seen this coming considering the fact that they are suppressed here more than any other place in the world?
Let’s go back to 20th century when smoking amongst women was still considered as taboo They were seen as the reincarnation of a goddess. (I don’t know which one to name as we have so many of them). The only thing taught to them was looking after their husband and families.I am not suggesting that they were not capable enough to make a career in the corporate world but for most of them, professional success didn’t matter as much as being a successful housewife did. Being raised in the orthodox family culture could be the main reason behind all of that. Like the other day I met this old lady in the bar, she appeared to be around in her mid fifty’s. When I saw her smoking, I couldn’t control myself so I struck the conversation and asked her for how long she had been smoking, to which she replied and I quote, ” Since the time she turned 15.” She said that it was not easy to be a lady smoker in those days as it was considered as frowned upon in the society. She always had to do it in isolated areas so that no one could catch her doing it.
So, this explains a lot about the orthodox frame of mind of Indian societies in the late 20th century times.
Now let’s come back to the present time. Apparently, there is a huge rise in women smokers in comparison to men in India now. Yes, we feel very proud to see women matching up with men at every level. Tables have turned around in last two decades or so but giving competition to them in smoking is the last thing they would ever want. It’s bad enough that there are already millions of men smokers in India; we don’t want women to add to that numbers for sure. Same applies to men too.
And this calls for another question.
Why do we smoke after all?
Irrespective of whether it is woman smoker or men, there can be many theories of why we get into this bad habit after all. I guess it has a lot to do with the society only. It’s funny though because earlier also society was one of the main reason for us not to smoke due to its orthodox way of perceiving things. Who would have thought one thing which kept us away from a bad habit, gave us away eventually to it. I know a lot of people will argue with the fact that it’s one’s own responsibility to stay away from bad influence but is that bad influence not a part of our society? It is, isn’t? And when it is around us all the time then how can it be ignored.
I had a very interesting conversation with this person I knew, she said she tends to take a puff when she is tensed, it soothes her nerves apparently. It’s not surprising because a lot of people says the same thing. Don’t they?
One of my friends said that the only reason he got into this habit is that of his boss being a chain smoker. Whenever he took a break to fire a puff or two, he would always talk to him about what he needs to improve in his work to get a promotion or hike. So, to gain a good chance of getting a promotion, would you not smoke with your boss? He asked me.
Few of the folks I know are of the opinion that people tend to attract towards it when they go through tough times for instance break ups in relationships, it’s the time when they are feeling so low, they would go for anything new no matter how infectious and addictive it is for them, just to get that move through the difficult times. The only thing which is beyond my understanding is when people do it just to look cool. Like this guy I knew, he used to tell me that smoking has become a part of fashion these days.
How uncool is that? What does damaging your lungs have to do with fashion?
They will give so many reasons to why one gets into this disastrous habit but all I can say is that It has nothing to do with above reasons, I strongly feel that whosoever does it are weak from inside. Smoking doesn’t have anything to do with helping one in depression or stress, its all in our mind. Even though we all know the consequences of doing so, yet we succumb to it every time.
Well, I am not proud to say this but it’s a fact that smoking has become a part of our daily routine nowadays which includes nonsmoker as well as they too are around the smokers playing the role of passive smokers. Unfortunately, It seems like they have made it like an addictive bad medicine, though it is seriously injurious to our health yet we feel that it is helping us with our day to day stress problems, appalling enough, isn’t?.